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Use Your Words


October is the “Use your Words” Character Trait month. This month Cougars are focused on using their words to let others know how they feel and how what others do affects them. This trait helps us to take part in resolving our conflicts that may occur in the school day by empowering our students to use their words effectively. Students selected for demonstrating strong “Use Your Words” skills will be awarded on Wednesday, October 31st at lunch.


LISTEN carefully to others and be sure you understand what they are saying.


ASK clarifying questions of the other person to make sure you understand the situation.


GIVE “I” statements saying how what someone else did affects your feelings.


GIVE “I” statements about what you will need to make things better.




1.  Have a discussion about using your words in the family. Give examples of using your words at work, school, and home to get the things you need by talking with others.


2.  Make a family chart of this trait and see if you can track how often you are using it at home.


3.  For one week keep a daily record of all the times you could have but didn’t use this trait at home, at school, and everywhere else. Then talk about how it may have changed things if you had “Used Your Words.”


4.  Pick one television program and watch it with your family. Afterward, have a family discussion about things people did in the program that were examples of either good or bad use of our trait.